that is rather unfortunate...Just my personal opinion, chances are slim if you go online with a mindset to search for Mr. Right. It's just like arranged matchmaking... just that you arrange it for yourself. The first date becomes a test, no cocktail, no appetizer, things don't get developed... It's like an interview or exam, the poor guy is either be a totally disqualified, lousy person or a nervous, cautious interviewee.

缘分会来的，我觉得你是个很真诚很直率的人，一定有一个好男人在等你

思想有多远，你就滚多远， muahahaha,改天出来喝酒

其实不是没有，而是有的都已经被抢走了。假设一个男孩子从18岁开始谈恋爱，当然，有好多开始的更早，那些暂且不提。到25，6岁的时候，经历了8年的经历，或者他已经找到了自己心仪的人，或者他不是个“好人“。 我没有说这里大龄单身的男生不是好人，只是，百分之80以上符合上面情况吧（注：此数字没有统计学调查支持） 倒是大龄女生。。。如果一直没有稳定的关系的话。。。。那倒是要反省一下了。。。很认真地说。有时候人们在问她为什么还没有男朋友的时候，会很给面子地说，可能是要求太高了吧，弄得她们真的觉得是因为要求太高，而不是自身的问题。还是自我反省一下吧。有什么问题？比如性格太内向？太悲观？太没主见？太有主见？太不搭理自己？太能打扮自己？太做做？太自怨自艾？等等。 以前因为公司的原因，参加过一次新加坡SDU的活动。也想借机会见识一下这里dating活动是什么样子的。结果发现，男生还好，因为新加坡男生普遍受ns所累，剩下的也不错，可女生就真的不敢恭维了。 好的女生，会有男生追的。 不要为了找男朋友而去参加类似活动，我觉得扩大朋友圈子比较重要。这样目的性不是那么强，反而更加容易有收获：） 另外，一点小TIPS.根据市场学原理，如果他一直没有一个稳定的 (more...)

太长，没心情去看～～不过顶楼主在本版的第二个红桃～～

我的一点提示，能不能在外貌上下点功夫比如参加锻炼，争取换个造型什么的。我想很多人看到照片就开始想着退了。

其实不是没有，而是有的都已经被抢走了。假设一个男孩子从18岁开始谈恋爱，当然，有好多开始的更早，那些暂且不提。到25，6岁的时候，经历了8年的经历，或者他已经找到了自己心仪的人，或者他不是个“好人“。 我没有说这里大龄单身的男生不是好人，只是，百分之80以上符合上面情况吧（注：此数字没有统计学调查支持） 倒是大龄女生。。。如果一直没有稳定的关系的话。。。。那倒是要反省一下了。。。很认真地说。有时候人们在问她为什么还没有男朋友的时候，会很给面子地说，可能是要求太高了吧，弄得她们真的觉得是因为要求太高，而不是自身的问题。还是自我反省一下吧。有什么问题？比如性格太内向？太悲观？太没主见？太有主见？太不搭理自己？太能打扮自己？太做做？太自怨自艾？等等。 以前因为公司的原因，参加过一次新加坡SDU的活动。也想借机会见识一下这里dating活动是什么样子的。结果发现，男生还好，因为新加坡男生普遍受ns所累，剩下的也不错，可女生就真的不敢恭维了。 好的女生，会有男生追的。 不要为了找男朋友而去参加类似活动，我觉得扩大朋友圈子比较重要。这样目的性不是那么强，反而更加容易有收获：） 另外，一点小TIPS.根据市场学原理，如果他一直没有一个稳定的 (more...)

看了你的帖子，我发现你的择偶要求1。人品好，这就去处了"married man", "weird guys", "ons guys", "insincere guys" 2. 要高，你1.68，穿高跟鞋就算增加5cm，1.73，你找bf应该要找1.78以上的吧。 3。岁数要合适，-1 +6岁你的岁数 4。不boring。我觉得大部分好男生应该都不太善言辞，要是能在言辞上把女孩子哄的很开心的男生，很多都要归类于insincere和ons。当然思考一分钟冒出一句话时有些过分，但是楼主自己也说"It's quite a common trait among Chinese people"，可能是华人通病，但马来西亚gg们表现要好一些。 5。Guys with no/low self-confidence，楼主是指没有恋爱经历的老男人吧。恋爱上没有自信。 我想说的是，符合1-5条的在新加坡的中国男人估计没有很多吧。就拿我实验室5，6个中国男生作例子，首先人品应该都没有问题，都可以通过，第二，身高低于1.73，1.74的估计直接就被否决了，基本就被否决了1大半，要解风情，要了解新加坡各种shopping center，各个酒吧舞厅的人估计没有，先不把这个当例子因为大部分女朋友都不在新加坡，也都没有算正式工作，不逛街不太去酒吧pub也是情有可原。但不管怎么说剩下的1，2个估计也会被楼主评为boring一类。 总体来说，楼主要找的人并且也在网 (more...)

我的一点提示，能不能在外貌上下点功夫比如参加锻炼，争取换个造型什么的。我想很多人看到照片就开始想着退了。

很有教育意义的文章, 希望征友的男性们都能仔细看一下.知己知彼, 百战不殆... 版主暂时不在, 打分我就代劳了. 也希望bbcat能早日找到自己的意中人.

介个肯定不是霸王-_-

I should recommend this article to my friend, heheI truely think at your age or my age, the chance of having a man who is both nice and available is very small. The only possibility is that such man: 1. breaks up with his gf or divorces with his wife. 2. the termination of the relationship is not due to his own problem. Maybe the woman didn't realize that he is a nice man, or the two persons simply didn't fit. 3. he is ready to pick up another relationship with others. Some people choose to cool down for a period... 4. you apear in front of him, in the right place, at the right moment. 5. MOST importantly, he must be attracted by you. The 5 conditions above must all be satisfied! See how hard it is? I also have two good female friends (both are my middle school ex-classmates) who are facing the problem you mentioned. Both of them are attractive ladies, quite successful in their career, and have good family background. However, they both feel very hard to find their Mr. Right. One of them is still trying

哦, 你看过我吗? 还是我的照片? 可能是对外貌不太注重, 谢谢提议.

I should recommend this article to my friend, heheI truely think at your age or my age, the chance of having a man who is both nice and available is very small. The only possibility is that such man: 1. breaks up with his gf or divorces with his wife. 2. the termination of the relationship is not due to his own problem. Maybe the woman didn't realize that he is a nice man, or the two persons simply didn't fit. 3. he is ready to pick up another relationship with others. Some people choose to cool down for a period... 4. you apear in front of him, in the right place, at the right moment. 5. MOST importantly, he must be attracted by you. The 5 conditions above must all be satisfied! See how hard it is? I also have two good female friends (both are my middle school ex-classmates) who are facing the problem you mentioned. Both of them are attractive ladies, quite successful in their career, and have good family background. However, they both feel very hard to find their Mr. Right. One of them is still trying