并且所谓平庸，会不会论断太早？成绩好的话，进入社会之后是否又会平庸呢？

If I Had My Child to Raise Over Again
If I had my child to raise over again,
I'd finger paint more, and point the finger less.
I'd do less correcting, and more connecting.
I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.
I would care to know less, and know to care more.

I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.

I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.

I'd run through more fields, and gaze at more stars.
I'd do more hugging, and less tugging.
I would be firm less often, and affirm much more.
I'd build self-esteem first, and the house later.
I'd teach less about the love of power,
And more about the power of love.
It matters not whether my child is big or small,
From this day forth, I'll cherish it all.

让我们小时候这么自觉，哈哈

考试成绩拔尖，只是为了确保在接下来的求学生涯里，继续考出好成绩。但接受教育的最终目的（功利的那一部分），是找到好工作，在社会里表现杰出。

成绩好却道德低下（教育部奖学金的主娈童，国大法律系性爱光碟等），或者成绩好却不知道自己真正喜爱的真正擅长的，最后只能庸碌工作一辈子。

所以不平庸（成绩好）真的那么重要吗？

We must understand that
making good choices is
like any other activity:
It has to be learned.

All loving parents face essentially the same
challenge: raising children who have their
heads on straight and will have a good
chance to make it in the big world. Every
sincere mom and dad strives to attain this
goal. We must equip our darling offspring to
make the move from total dependence on us
to independence, from being controlled by us
to controlling themselves.

As parents, this means we must allow for
failures and help our kids make the most of
them during their elementary school days,
when the price tags are still reasonable.

The cost of learning how to live in our world
is growing up daily. The price a child pays
today to learn about
friendships, school,
learning, commitment,
decision making, and
responsibility is the
cheapest it will ever be.

The older a child gets,
the bigger the decisions
become and the graver
the consequences of those decisions. Little
children can make many mistakes at
affordable prices. Usually all they’re out
are some temporary pain and a few tears.
Yet those prices are too high for some
parents. They protect. They reason, “I love
him. I don’t want little Johnny to learn the
hard way.”

True, it’s painful to watch our kids learn
through natural consequences or, as we like
to call them, significant learning opportunities
(SLOs). But that pain is part of the price we
must pay to raise responsible kids.

The challenge of parenting is to love kids
enough to allow them to fail—to stand back,
however painful it may be, and let SLOs
build our children.

To help our children gain responsibility, we
must offer them opportunities to be responsible.
That’s the key. Parents who raise responsible
kids spend very little time and energy
worrying about their kids’ responsibilities;
they worry more about how to let the children
encounter SLOs for the irresponsibility. They
are involved with their kids, certainly,
lovingly using good judgment as to when
their children are ready to learn the next level
of life’s lessons. But they don’t spend their
time reminding them or worrying for them.

Ineffective Parenting Styles:

Helicopter Parents—They hover over
and then rescue their children whenever
trouble arises. They’re always
pulling their children out of jams.

Turbo-Attack Helicopter Model—
These parents, in their zeal to protect
their young, swoop down like jetpowered
AH-64 Apache attack
helicopters on any person or agency
they see as a threat to their child’s
impeccable credentials.

Drill Sergeant Parents—They feel that
the more they bark and the more they
control, the better their kids will be in
the long run.


Effective Parenting Style:

Consultant Parents—They ask their
children questions and offer choices.
Instead of telling their children what
to do, they put the burden of decision
making on their kids’ shoulders.

必须注明source:

http://www.parentbooksummaries.com/parenting-with-love-logic/

Parents who try to ensure their children’s success often raise unsuccessful kids.

- According to Jim Fay, one of America’s top educational consultants, and Dr. Foster Cline, a trend-setting child and adult psychiatrist.

万一孩子是基佬蕾丝边？

富豪赵世曾不承认女儿同性婚礼 豪掷5亿招婿
http://edu.sina.com.cn/bschool/2012-10-14/1259358235.shtml

虽然想知道尽多的育儿知识，但在行动上，这里付出更多精力的妈妈很多，例如水版主的精美手工：）

达芬奇，Elton John，

和王力宏？