有counter offer就好谈，没有的话就只有放狠话了比如：你很好，但我们只能做朋友，保持联系。 比如：I am really very interested in your position and I like you and you like me blabla. But I have a family to raise I have four parents to fund I have five kids in MindChamps I have ten wifes not working. More cash flow would help me to concentrate on the job and make big contribution, more stocks would also help me to persuade the long term commitment with the company blabla. I promise to not shop around, if you raise the total package to blabla I will sign it immediately. 个人经验，放狠话之后，HR一般都会示弱，让你谈谈有什么他们可以做的，比如raise package。