Anybody who can help my mum, pls?!Hi, all
I guess I need to consult something.
My mum always complain about her dad. She spends
almost half of the phone time complaining that every
time I phone her.
Her dad is arbitrary, dictate, and talks wild without
proper manner to his daughter.
He has always been very dominant in that family. He
made most of the decisions, but he used to consider
others' interest when making them. But as he gets
older, he could not make them right. A man in his
seventieth, being retired and quite isolated from most
of the society, simply could made a lot of mistakes,
but he, forever, thinks himself is right before his
children.
To describe some detailed happening to make it more
vivid:
My mum went to look after him days ago, but all her
activities are decided by her dad. She had to wake up
on 7am, went to bed at 8pm, and eat at certain time
too. She had to accompany her dad watching TV, but the
program is 'xi4 qu3', which my mum did not enjoy at
all. My mum could not turn on the l (more...)
i think the most important thing is...
to ptotect herself well.
as others had said, it is impossible to change an old man's mind. but our mind can change to adapt the situation.
do u know this story:
it is very difficult to cover the whole surface of the earth to protect our feet from being cut by sticks and stones. but by covering only the surface of our feet with leather it is as if the whole surface of the earth were covered with leather.
i think these words are very enlightening.
we know the situation and we know we cannot change it. so why not accept it and protect ourself well? anyway, he is her dad. she must take care of him.
therfore, the best way i think is protecting herself well. let her dad be himself and let her be herself.
as others had said, it is impossible to change an old man's mind. but our mind can change to adapt the situation.
do u know this story:
it is very difficult to cover the whole surface of the earth to protect our feet from being cut by sticks and stones. but by covering only the surface of our feet with leather it is as if the whole surface of the earth were covered with leather.
i think these words are very enlightening.
we know the situation and we know we cannot change it. so why not accept it and protect ourself well? anyway, he is her dad. she must take care of him.
therfore, the best way i think is protecting herself well. let her dad be himself and let her be herself.
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