我是怎么了？两年前来新加坡，在一间公司做了很短一段时间，那里的氛围不好，一直很压抑，加上我直肠子的个性，不能再忍，决定换工。这里很多公司只要PR和local，当时觉得压力很大，不多久这个老板给了我offer，答应帮我办EP。我觉得我好幸运。
上工的第一天，眼神不经意和老板的相遇，他对我笑了一下，总觉得有些怪怪的，但说不上来。我一直很努力的工作，想以此报答他当初给我offer，给我EP。渐渐的，我开始了解他对我的某些想法，虽然他没有挑明过。老板有时会叫我一起去lunch。一次lunch后他跟我说，他很喜欢他以前的一个手下，他们还有过一次sex。我想，那跟我没关系，我可以做你的朋友，甚至红颜知己，但不是情人。我曾经暗示过他，你这样子你太太知道了一定很伤心。他和太太分居几年了，太太在中国，一年就见几次面。他说他太太觉得他找女人没什么。我没有办法接受这种想法，至少现在不能。婚姻应该是这样的吗？十几年过去，没有了新鲜感，两个人可以各自在外找乐子，只是为了孩子还是一对couple。
我和老公结婚四年多，走到一起前经历了很多，很珍惜现在平静，快乐的生活。我憧憬着将来我们有个big house，有两三个健康可爱的宝宝，再有两只狗，一只是老公爱的斗牛，一只是我要的黄金，或者还� (more...)
I think it is WRONG if you just calculate for your self
I believe:
Human being is firstly a social being, secondly a self being.
Properties on your own body belong not necessarily only to yourself.
Whatever you do willhave impact not only on yourself, but also on others.
Many times, things will affect others much more than affect yourself.
Such as your life partner, your child, your family, your relatives.
That's why there is such words called: responsibility, sacrifice, love, care...
Personally, I don't think love is the most important thing to a individual. Care is the most important. That's where I count for a person's value.
So I don't think calculating the appropriateness of one action by analyzing what you get and what you loss is right, whatever good or bad outcome it will led to. That's not a terribly wrong.
Human being is firstly a social being, secondly a self being.
Properties on your own body belong not necessarily only to yourself.
Whatever you do willhave impact not only on yourself, but also on others.
Many times, things will affect others much more than affect yourself.
Such as your life partner, your child, your family, your relatives.
That's why there is such words called: responsibility, sacrifice, love, care...
Personally, I don't think love is the most important thing to a individual. Care is the most important. That's where I count for a person's value.
So I don't think calculating the appropriateness of one action by analyzing what you get and what you loss is right, whatever good or bad outcome it will led to. That's not a terribly wrong.
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