一定要及时通报你的爱情状况，期待ing[九哥笨的要死 (12-7 11:54, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]221楼

(引用 九哥笨的要死:一定要及时通报你的爱情状况，期待ing)ah-cat，考虑下九哥？他的旋外之音我都听出来liao！[六月雪 (12-7 17:51, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]222楼

(引用 bbcat:但是对远距离爱情没有什么信心, 也许又是一段没有结果的感情.)跟他一起去啊！为了爱情私奔！值得！[六月雪 (12-7 17:52, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]223楼

(引用 小雪:召唤我们无敌可爱，绝世美丽的版主妹妹来锁贴～～)任性的没道理！[六月雪 (12-7 17:53, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]224楼

(引用 六月雪:ah-cat，考虑下九哥？他的旋外之音我都听出来liao！)笑死了, 九哥应该不会对我有兴趣的, 他已经被我吓到了.[bbcat (12-7 19:10, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]225楼

其实应该还有一种overconfident guys..i did receive a letter, the guy never introduce himself..but just asked me to add his MSN so tat he can check more information on me...
and the worse thing is, he ended his msg with: to you, i am TOO　GOOD !
i almost vomit my blood!..dont understand..since u look down on me..why bother to come to check![六月雪 (12-7 22:18, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]226楼

(引用 六月雪:跟他一起去啊！为了爱情私奔！值得！)我真的希望我可以做到这样, 但是他没有给我这个勇气, 他选择逃避.[bbcat (12-7 23:54, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]227楼

good writing reflecting the discrepancy of Ideal and Realitythe only way is to make sure what we want and then keep trying.[wonder (12-8 10:36, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]228楼

(引用 wonder:good writing reflecting the discrepancy of Ideal and Realitythe only way is to make sure what we want and then keep trying.)yes, i admit i have a weakness for romantism, i will keep trying, thanks[bbcat (12-8 15:18, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]229楼

(引用 帝释天:强烈要求楼主发中文版的)SUPPORT~![狮城乖乖龙 (12-8 18:58, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]230楼

(引用 bbcat:笑死了, 九哥应该不会对我有兴趣的, 他已经被我吓到了.)木啦，俺其实是相当期待的。请下辈子首先考虑我！[九哥笨的要死 (12-9 22:02, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]231楼

(引用 bbcat:我真的希望我可以做到这样, 但是他没有给我这个勇气, 他选择逃避.)悲哀！你一定可以找到勇敢一点的！[六月雪 (12-11 22:51, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]232楼

(引用 bbcat:don't really get what you mean......are you saying i am expecting too much?i am aware that i am not perfect either, and it's not...)顶这个, 这种事情,确实不能凑合要宁缺勿滥
免得将来发现自己的真爱时,已经attach了[sunnyone (12-22 0:49, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]233楼

(引用 bbcat:看个人的吧, 我觉得很多时候是男生无法接受比自己高的女生.)不一定的,我有些哥们朋友还就喜欢比自己高的说是为了下一代着想
其中一位仁兄说自己已经被身高严重限制了,不能再让他儿子继续被限制了,嗯,顶[sunnyone (12-22 1:08, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]234楼

(引用 bbcat:以为自己找到了, 但是好难......最近见了一个男生, 很有好感, 可以算是一拍即合吧, 而且他也很喜欢我. PS 比我矮一点. 但是他就要去美国�...)有能让自己动心的就是跨出了很大一步啊加油!祝福你们[sunnyone (12-22 1:27, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]235楼

(引用 excalibur:不要拿你家亲戚的小概率事件说事我家的七大姑的八大姨的九大婶的小二妹子， 昨天买六合彩中了100万，并不代表每个买六合彩的人都可以中1...)这不是概率的问题这个比方打得太不恰当了。。。
择配需要智慧和等待，有诚心便能成事。。怎么能跟买六合彩这样的事情相提并论，呜呼~
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骨子里就透出那种女强人的气质，在华语论坛整这么大段英文，看得真累估计形成今天这种个性，你自己也不想。说实话，绝大多数出色的男人不喜欢你这种的，一起工作，创业什么的，还行，一起生活--累。不过还是祝福你一下，愿你找到好姻缘。[sahi (6-12 20:28, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]237楼

(引用 sahi:骨子里就透出那种女强人的气质，在华语论坛整这么大段英文，看得真累估计形成今天这种个性，你自己也不想。说实话，绝大多数出色的男人不...)哦， 女强人？ 不知道， 可能性格比较刚硬。 呵呵[bbcat (6-13 17:32, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]238楼

(引用 pinkhil:居然楼下几个都没有听出他是超嘲讽的语气。。。。。。。)这个姐姐脾气有点不好哦[pinkhil (6-15 9:05, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]239楼

the beauty of diversityWhat an interesting article to read. First let me apologize for not reading every reply in this thread. (BTW, I don’t find the interface of huasing very user friendly, especially when reading the replies; and I hate sgchinese too, as it keeps freezing my firefox.) I wish I could have followed this thread since it was posted, but, too bad, I just came back to Singapore about a month ago. And maybe it’s my problem, but I have visited this page many times and this thread didn’t catch my attention until today. Well, it’s probably my bad, as I simply ignored all ‘ding zhi’s assuming that they are all advertisements.

Now, before I give my comments, let me briefly share my experiences during the past 4 weeks in Singapore on, of course, the so-called online dating. I’m honored to get a chance to meet about 10 nice ladies, all through huasing. Well, some may find it a very small sample, especially those like bbcat who may have received over 100 letters; but to me, it’s a fantastic experience. No doubt every one of them is unique - some are relatively short, the rest are taller; some are better looking and the rest are just average; some had next to zero prior experience with males and the rest look more mature; some like to joke around and enjoyed being teased and the rest are more serious; some are more confident and the rest are relatively shy… There is no way I love every one of them – my love one is also unique – but I like them all, seriously and honestly. I exchanged emails with them sharing stories in our everyday life; I had dinner/lunch with every one of them, told them who I am and what I do; I listen to them and get to know their life; we asked questions and exchanged opinions on various matters… Although I need to admit that I stopped sending emails to many of them voluntarily in order to signal that I’m not their ‘cup of tea’, but my intension is just to give them a clear signal so that they can move on from there. I wish them the best luck and would be more than happy to be one of their best friends if they feel the same.

Note that there is no major difference between my experience and bbcat’s, IMHO, except that I met the gals and she met the guys. In general these people are from the same pool, i.e., those from mainland China, and in particular those who did their undergrad or grad study in Singapore. What makes it different is one’s perception. I don’t want to go any further to teach others what to do and what not to do, and it’s not my intension to draw a conclusion on who is right and who is wrong. I just wish to share with everyone my .02 worth. It is a good idea to keep our minds open, look at the positive side of everything, try to appreciate others’ opinion and personal interests even if those are absolutely what you want to avoid, and last but not the least give your sincere respect to others.

What I would like to emphasize, at the end, is the beauty of diversity. I understand that the one you met may not be ‘the one’ that you are looking for, but in most cases, there is nothing right or wrong when it comes to anything about one’s preference. When I say preference I refer to anything/everything which one is free to choose from and at the same time which wouldn’t affect the life of those around. It can even be extended although I don’t think I want to go that far in this discussion.

Well, it’s probably too much for today. Sorry for the “guan shui”. Friday night without a date makes me wonder what to do, and here I found this interesting article from bbcat. No offense intended to anyone, especially bbcat, and, happy reading. :)[K-K (8-3 20:38, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]240楼